We had had a nice little snow fall over the weekend and the kids hadn't had a chance to get out in it so The Hubbs took them outside and made their first snowman. Yes, I said "first". We are terrible parents I know but at least now they have made one.
As you can see from the background our snowfall was pretty meager but it was enough wet snow to make a decent snowman. They were so proud of their creation too. I'm thankful that The Hubbs takes the time to do fun stuff with them. I'm so overwhelmed with school and the house, field trips, percussion lessons, art lessons, etc. (not to mention blogging) that I just don't do "fun" stuff with them. I need to be better.
On with the story. After the kids were in the house and eating warm soup and enjoying some Bugs Bunny cartoons (thanks to Amazon for fulfilling one of The Hubbs dreams of having Merry Melodies so the kids could see and enjoy what he watched growing up) the neighborhood kids started to get home from school. For some unknown reason, these kids thought to ride their bikes into our yard in order to run over the snowman my kids had built - totally destroying it. Well, The Hubbs did a fine job containing himself as he walked outside and stopped the destruction. We just used it as a teaching opportunity of something we teach our children daily.
One of the kids - the one who did most, if not all, of the damage to the snowman is a kid my son has grown up with. My son only uses the word "love" for two other kids besides his sister, and this neighbor boy is one of them. He is such an ugly-spirited child and it pains my heart to no end because kids are a product of their upbringing and I've witnessed quite a bit of his upbringing - more than I cared to. Since my son loves this child so much, he believes this kid feels the same way about him and wonders why his friend destroyed his beautiful snowman. We didn't say anything but he saw that the snowman was all squished in the yard so we told him what happened.
I happened to be up and about for a few moments munching on saltines and sipping some ginger ale and I told him that that was the reason we don't think of ourselves first. I'm always teaching my kids that others come before us - always. This is what God's Word teaches. Jesus always humbled himself and put others before Himself even until death. He is our perfect pattern.
These kids only thought of how much fun it would be to destroy the snowman, not about how another would feel about it. At least I hope that was what they were thinking and not just being plain ugly. This is why we always think of others before we say or do anything. We think about how our actions will affect another - no matter what they do or not do to us. We live in a feel good society but it's all about how WE feel - me, me, me. Do I react in a certain manner because I just have to? Or do I contain myself and practice "self-control"
I know these are just kids and kids will be kids - even MY perfect kids (you're supposed to laugh here). Kids ARE kids and must be supervised - these kids were 6, 4, (brothers) and a 10 year old. I'm sorry my six and four year old would not be roaming the neighborhood on their bikes without supervision. Times are not like they used to be.
The lesson in all of this? If we love, we will put others before ourselves. Many people say this, but do we actaully DO it AND teach our children by this example? It starts with us.
2 Peter 1:5-9 ". . . giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge, 6 to knowledge self-control, to self-control perseverance, to perseverance godliness, 7 to godliness brotherly kindness, and to brotherly kindness love. 8 For if these things are yours and abound, you will be neither barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ." NKJV
Mourning the loss of the dearly departed. Rest in peace ol' buddy.